As many people know, if your loved one battles with substance abuse, issues may arise. Specifically, a family member with alcohol abuse or drug abuse, can cause marriage or relationship disruptions and can even have a toll on your health and well-being. You might even feel compelled to get them help or to be there for them, even if they do not want the help. However, in some instances, you could worsen the issue unintentionally or perhaps you might not know where to begin. But, don’t worry, there are measures you can take, as someone who cares for a loved someone with substance abuse issues.

First, understand that addiction and dependency are distinct from each other. Addiction mostly means that there is a physiological dependency. For instance, an individual who has just quit smoking cigarettes might experience the feeling that their body wants them to smoke, either by inducing anxiety, headaches, etc. For the most part, addiction symptoms can be out of their control, even if they want to completely quit smoking. Dependency on drugs is an emotional and psychological response. If one is dependent on a substance, they enjoy the mood changes, emotional attachment, and they ignore the consequences, such as gambling. Understanding the distinction between addiction and dependency can help you understand your loved one.

In attempt to help your loved one, you can begin by addressing your concerns. Although it may seem like you do not have much influence on them, your loved one can be considerate of your feelings. You can calmly discuss the influence they have on you, while reassuring them of how much they mean to you. They might get upset or angry, but you should be prepared for this by calmly speaking to them and reassuring that they can talk about their feelings too. And, if your loved one surprises you, they might ask for help, in which case you should seek a counselor immediately.

Find a licensed counselor, psychologist, or social worker, who specializes in addiction prevention and treatment. Many family doctors or therapists do not have experience in this field, so it is imperative that you choose the right person to go to. This will provide you and your family a clear path towards treatment. It would even help to have a counselor or doctor in mind before talking to your loved one, because you want to seek treatment as soon as possible. You might find that waiting to see if things get better will be easier, but it is always best to seek help before the problem worsens.

Remember that if this small intervention does not work, you can try again. There is not a limit of how many times you can be open about your emotions, so do not let this issue go. Consider an intervention conducted by a professional counselor or psychologist. The professional can serve as a mediator, especially when family relationships are highly damaged. Do not give up on your loved one, and especially do not give up on yourself. Having an emotional bond with a loved one who struggles with substance abuse can be draining and stress inducing, but staying patient will help you in this difficult time.