This pandemic has created a world where social distancing and self-isolation is not just optional; it is required. In these times, it is very easy for a single person to feel a level of need to be connected to other people. 

As in-person dating is impossible in these times, and definitely a safety and health concern, those singles living on their own are particularly vulnerable to the lure of falling back into relationships with ex-partners. If you are a single that is feeling the need to connect with someone you know and have had a relationship with, even if it was not the relationship you wanted, you are not experiencing this without a cause. 

While the goal is to be with partners that provide positive, uplifting, and supportive experiences, in times of stress or when we feel isolated or vulnerable, the need for any type of connection becomes our focus at a subconscious level. Unfortunately, this can lead people to reach out to destructive or emotionally damaging partners. In the very best scenario, it means risking another breakup and unfulfilling relationship at a time when you are already vulnerable and emotionally fragile. 

Social connections and dating relationships provide the opportunity to share, empathize, and support each other. In these uncertain and challenging times, building a support network that provides this neurological need and helps you to feel emotionally and socially strong and resilient is the key to avoid going back to bad relationships from the past. 

To create resilience and to feel connected with positive, supportive people, try the following strategies:

• Be honest with yourself. If you are feeling lonely, discouraged, stressed or unsettled, be open and honest with yourself. Once you stop trying to convince yourself you are fine on your own, you can start to look for positive people to connect with. 
• Engage with friends and family. While you may not be able to meet in person, social media and online video platforms provide a free way to connect with others. Consider getting a group of friends together on Facebook, Zoom, FaceTime, Skype, or any other platform you choose and host a virtual dinner party, a karaoke night, or just a chat. 
• Find something you enjoy and do it. Keeping yourself mentally and physically occupied with things you enjoy is another way to boost the feel-good chemicals in your brain. Read a favorite book, start a new hobby, or access a free online workout you can do in your home. 
• Exercise. Getting outdoors, even for a short walk, is a great way to boost your mental and physical energy levels. This is also a way to see and talk to others, and outdoor spaces make it easy to maintain at least a 6-foot social distance. 

If you are feeling overwhelmed and lonely, many therapists and counselors are offering online sessions. These can be an ideal way to create a plan for yourself to avoid going back to a bad relationship.